What If Feeling Stuck Is A Language Problem

The word “stuck” can hide a thousand different truths and that’s exactly why it keeps you frozen. When you can’t name what’s happening inside you, everything blends together: stress, grief, pressure, doubt, anger, fatigue. And when it’s all mixed, it’s hard to make a clean decision about what to do next. That’s the heart of this conversation on life resets and building your next baseline.

I walk through a framework I created called C2R2E, a practical “personal GPS” for personal growth, mindset, and resilience. The goal isn’t hype or motivation. It’s location. We break down the five stages step by step: Collapse (what breaks or stops working), Confrontation (uncomfortable honesty about what’s real), Realignment (intentional adjustments and better questions), Reclamation (taking ownership and reclaiming your voice), and Elevation (operating from a new standard instead of chasing the past). If you’ve been dealing with divorce, co-parenting stress, burnout, leadership pressure, a career shift, or a season where things don’t feel right anymore, this structure helps you stop guessing and start choosing actions that actually fit.

Before we close, I give you a simple writing prompt you can do right after listening to create clarity fast: what changed, what are you avoiding, and which stage are you in right now? I also point you to elevatuscoach.com and my free seven-day reset program on YouTube so you can apply the ideas in a practical way.

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Transcript

Welcome And The Next Baseline

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Hello, everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Next Baseline. And if this is your very first time tuning into the show, I just want to extend to you a very, very warm welcome. So I'm your podcast host, Danny DeHesus, and this podcast is about life resets and then what it takes to reach your next baseline. So whether you're dealing with maybe divorce, co-parenting stress, burnout, leadership pressure, a professional career shift, or maybe a moment where things just don't feel right anymore. So the question at this point is not about how do we get our old life back. It's really about what we build moving forward. What do we do about the current situation that we're in and the appropriate steps and actions we need to take to move forward in a different direction?

Why Stuck Feels So Foggy

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So for today's episode along that line, you know, I want to focus on something that I feel a lot of people tend to overlook. Um, but it's really a centerpiece, especially when we talk about those moments where we feel stuck. Because I'm going to tell you, I'm not a believer that it's because people lack effort or some sort of motivation. But really, I think the whole core, part of the core reason why we feel stuck sometimes is because we lack the language to give whatever it is that we're feeling. A lot of times, what I found, you know, just in everyday life, when I've engaged with people that say that feel like uh, like they feel meh or they feel like they're not moving anywhere, what I found is many of us sometimes have a hard time explaining exactly what that feeling is. You know, sometimes we cannot define what is actually happening within ourselves or what's happening internally for us to feel the way that we do. The only thing that we know is we just feel something is happening. We we feel a certain way, but but we don't have the words exactly for that. And what I found is because of that, you know, a lot of things, especially when it comes down to our internal world, seems to be mixed together. And what I found, or what I think, is when everything is mixed, tends to be mixed together, um, it becomes really hard and really difficult to make good, clean decisions for the next steps that we that we need to take to move forward. And so, what is this feeling of stuckness? What what what is this stuck feeling? And sometimes we call it or we say we can feel off, maybe it's something like something doesn't feel right, or just simply put, I just feel stuck. And with that, you know, when we say those kinds of things out loud, it's really not specific enough to take action and to move forward. And here's the thing if you cannot specifically name whatever it is that you're experiencing, you can't work with

C2R2E As A Personal GPS

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it. And so that is why you know, looking back in retrospect, that is why I created C2R2E. And here's the thing, before I go any further, if this is your first time listening to to what C2R2E is, I'll explain it in a moment. But before I do that, you know, this is exactly why I created the framework C2R2E, because it's not about motivation. This is not a concept, but what it is, it is a way to locate yourself within a process, within a framework, to be able to specifically point out and say, hey, that's what I'm feeling right now. And once you know where you are, your next step becomes much easier and much clearer. There's clarity in that. It's kind of like a map. So think of a map. Or think of your your GPS on your phone or in your car or whatever it is that you happen to use, GPS, global positioning system, for example. We use those things to know exactly where we are, whether it's a map or GPS, to pinpoint our exact location and to give us an estimated time in terms of you know the estimated time of arrival forever for whatever our destination happens to be. Well, the same thing is true from this perspective of stuckness, where I was able to develop this framework that I call C2R2E. And what it stands for is this you have collapse, confrontation, realignment, reclamation, and elevation. So now let me define what every single one of those words actually means. And

The Five Stages Defined

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as I'm reading this, just as as I'm reading it, just follow me and reflect on your own life for just a moment and see where you can connect with this framework. So the first one, collapse. Very simply put, collapse is really when something breaks down, something stops working in your life, something is no longer the same than what it used to be. It could be catastrophic or it could be very quiet. Doesn't really matter. Collapse is collapse. How it shows up, that's a whole different story. And we can get to that at a different on another episode. But with collapse, this could be the end of all of a relationship, a routine that's not working anymore. It could be your personal identity. And trust me, from my time on active duty as a military member, there comes a point where the identity shifts from being in the uniform to one day that uniform comes off. Also, a collapsible moment in your life could be your confidence and even your sense of direction. And things that used to work, as I mentioned, that no longer work. Things that felt stable no longer feel stable. And if you don't recognize that you're in collapse, you may actually keep trying to use a system in your life that that no longer is responsive and is no longer applicable. And it's it's a it's a pivot, essentially. It's a moment that we have to sit there and we have to ponder what is happening and where do we go from here, which I think brings us to the next step, which is confrontation. And what confrontation is, it is where you actually start facing with what is real in the present, not what you hoped would be true, and not what you wish was different. What is actually happening right now at this moment in time. And this is where you're gonna get your clarity. This is how clarity begins. But it can also just want to warn you confrontation can be an uncomfortable phase in your life because it's going to require heavy duty, unabridged honesty. And honesty requires responsibility. And once you're able to become honest with yourself, that is when you can really start to take a very actionable step. And that phase, I call it realignment. And realignment is where you begin to take the action for readjust for making readjustments or adjustments in your life. Your your thinking is going to shift in the at this phase. Your priorities are going to start to change. You're going to explore asking different questions, and you're no longer going to be in a position where you're solely in reactionary mode. And in fact, this is the place where you start to move with more deliberate intention. And once you're able to move with more deliberate intention, you're going to move into reclamation. And reclamation is where you start to take ownership of your life again. And this is where you stop waiting for everything around you to change and you actually start making decisions that are going to move your life forward. You're going to begin to reclaim your voice and your personal agency at this stage. And your actions begin to match your current state of awareness. And with that, the final stage here is elevation. And elevation is where you begin operating from a new standard. You're not trying to go back to what broke you, to the old version of yourself. And what you are also not trying to recreate is what used to be. That is gone. That is part of the past, and you can't live in the past. And in order to have the future that you desire, you must chart a course for the future that you're wanting. And again, you go through through collapse, confrontation, realignment, reclamation, if you do those correctly, you're going you're going to go into elevation completely as a completely changed person. And you know, when I think of elevation, you know, it's not a final step, by the way. But it is the beginning of operating from a new uh from a new place within yourself. And it's going and it's operating off a essentially a new baseline. So

Matching Actions To Your Stage

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with that, let's get back to this idea of being being stuck now that we talked through this whole C2R2E phase. You know, because here's the thing. Most people, I think, feel stuck because they don't know which what stage of life that they're in. And I think this is where C2R2E becomes so integral or important or at least enlightening. At least it can give you some sort of perspective because it allows you to pinpoint exactly where you are. And what tends to happen, what people, when people tend to feel stuck, I think some people try to take actions that really don't match their situation. They try to jump to action to action when they are really still in collapse, really still having to identify what's not working anymore. And then what ends up happening is they try to rebuild upon something when they have not even confronted anything yet or really been honest about uh with themselves about whatever is happening. And that's going to create some friction, some frustration, and it's and sometimes only you're only digging the hole even deeper. So when you use a framework like C2R2E, I I think you remove re I think you remove some of that confusion. You can step back and you can ask yourself really a simple question. Where am I right now? Where am I in this point in time? Where am I on this date? Where am I going? And I think that question really changes how how you think about what's going on. Because no longer it becomes about guessing, because really, just like a map, you're locating. Once you can locate yourself, your next step becomes, I think, easier to identify and becomes a little bit more obvious. So with that, you know, as we approach the end of this episode, because I always love, you know, giving all the listeners just something to think about. So

A Simple Clarity Writing Practice

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with that, here's something simple you can do after this episode. You know, I'm gonna ask you, take a few minutes, get out a piece of paper, maybe take the the notes app on your phone, and do this. Write down what you are actually dealing with right now and be honest about it. What has broken down or changed? What have you been avoiding, and what decisions you have been putting off? Then ask yourself which stage, going back to C2R2E, collapse, confrontation, realignment, reclamation, elevation, which stage does this look like to you? And here's the thing you don't have to have the most perfect, eloquent answer. This is really for you. This is for nobody else other than yourself. But what I but the reason I'm asking you to do this is so you can identify where your starting point actually is. Because clarity is not going to come from thinking more. It actually is going to come from thinking with better structure. And going back to a bigger picture of the things that I've talked about, this directly ties back into transformational resilience. This is actually what transformational resilience looks like. It is not about pushing through everything. In fact, it's it is really about understanding where you are so you can move forward with deliberate intention. So if

Transformational Resilience And Next Baseline

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you want to go deeper into this, you know, I'm gonna encourage you to explore more of my work at elevatiscoach.com. And the description for this is going to be in the link in the in the links in the uh the links are gonna be in the description. And then also, I I think this is a good pretty good plug to talk about my seven-day reset program, which you can find on YouTube. And again, you can go to elevatiscoach.com, just look at the top at the header, uh, hover over content, and you can see the seven-day reset. And again, it's not super long, you know. So I would encourage you to take the seven-day reset because it will help you apply, apply what you've listened in this episode in a very practical way. So, again, all that is going to be available to you, no cost. It is just out there, just for your consumption and for your benefit. So,

Resources Fan Mail And Share

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with that being said, if you want to reach out to me, um, by all means, send me a fan mail. I would love to hear from you. I will love to hear about your C2R2E moment. I will love to hear what you're going through. And who knows, I may decide to feature that on a few future episode of the next baseline. So until next time, I'm going to wish you peace, love, joy, happiness. And I hope that you continue to elevate. And I hope that this episode was of incredible value to you. And if it was, please share it with someone else. Until next time, this is Danny Jesus. This is Dandy DeJesus with the next baseline.